It has been almost three years since my last update. Life in Mumbai has been revolving around only three things – work, war and weddings. Let me start with the weddings first. Thirty is a fantastic age to be at. Your friend circle is a mixture of single people in their twenties flashing technology in your face, partying till the break of dawn and living an almost carefree life; and then there are the 30+, with their spouse and kids, still flashing technology in your face. But the socializing scene is different. At these events you are sober even after downing a bottle of vodka. You cook your dinner and not order á la carte. You play board games, home karaoke or just watch re-runs of Comedy Circus.
In the middle of this transition is a wedding.
In the Indian society, a man and a woman better be married by 30 and have kids. This used to be a well oiled machinery till a few years back, before the cable TV made the youth think and have opinions. Knowledge can really be a two edged sword. While on one hand you use your intelligence to do the right thing, on the other you start thinking too much that you lose focus and border on obsession about right and wrong. The problem starts when everyone thinks that they are right and the other person is wrong. So you have a generation of leaders and philosophers but no followers. The social network and online media is not doing anything to help that either.
At the center of weddings is love. I may feel a bitter churn in my stomach to even write that word, I may be cynical, but, I’m not going to be apologetic about it. Love is an obsession, passion and something that’s always on your mind. My love so far has been my work. I’m also married to my work, considering that I always have work on my mind. I’m sure this is the case with most youngsters today. Even if one refuses to admit it – work is the center of every human being today. One works to support his physical and emotional needs. So when someone says that family comes first, I cannot help but wonder that it is actually the job that helps him keep the family happy. So you better start loving your job and start looking for the job that you are really comfortable, compatible and confident with. I believe that one has to be as careful about choosing a job as much as one would choose a life partner. Changing jobs may be easier than getting a divorce but the emotional shift that one goes through would be the same – sorrow of separation and excitement of getting on to something new.
So as you can see both work and weddings are interconnected by love.
Finally, challenging the joy of the two most important things in the life of 25-35 year olds is the conflict that arises in weddings and work – war. Mind is the greatest battle field. This is where most of the battle is fought. More dangerous than any nuclear or biological warfare are the mind wars. Unfortunately there are no clear good or evil sides here. Like I said before, everyone has an opinion today and is quite passionate about it too. This stems from our deep desire to be adventurous. The adventure to do more, see more and feel more!
Morpheus tells to Neo in Matrix, “This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.” Would you rather take the blue pill or the red?